weresingle again?
They would start meeting new women, go ondates, and once they found a woman they liked andwere very attracted to, they'd spend most of theirtime with this one woman.
And they would do something else...
They'd stop dating any other women they mighthave met and move into another relationship, eventhough they had just ended a relationship withanother women they felt strongly for because theydidn't want a "serious relationship."
It almost didn't make sense when I firststarted to recognize this pattern.
But keep in mind, even though these thingsdon't always make sense to women, they makePERFECT sense to the men going through them.
Does this situation with men ever frustrate youor leave you feeling like men have NO CLUE whatthey're doing?
Here's the problem...
When a man says one of these things, heactually MEANS something that is different fromwhat a woman would mean if she said the samewords.
Let me explain.
If a woman says, "I'm going to stay home andrelax today," she probably means that she's goingto stay home, make sure that her house and life isin order, catch up on chores and bills, and thenmaybe watch some shows on tv.
If a MAN says that he's going to stay home andrelax, he's probably going to watch some sports,drink beer, look at pictures of women on theinternet, and order take-out food.
IMPORTANT NOTICE: If you are reading this rightnow and you are a woman who watches sports, drinksbeer, looks at pictures of women on the internet,and orders take out to relax, then contact meimmediately at the email address below.
Ok, enough kidding around.
Back to our topic...
Men are DIFFERENT from women. And the wordsthey use often don't mean what they SOUND likethey mean.
So, the FIRST thing that you have to getthrough your head is that just because a man SAYSsomething to you, it doesn't always mean what youTHINK it means.
Catch my meaning?
THE BIG SECRET HE ISN'T TELLING YOU
There's a secret that men never happen tomention about what they want with a woman, whythey date, and what it means for them to have arelationship.
Unfortunately, for the good women who aretrying to create a great relationship with aman... and hoping that if they try hard enough tomake him happy with them so he'll stay... thislittle secret is causing a LOT of pain andfrustration.
The SECRET is that most men DO want arelationship with an amazing woman.
BUT... (and this is an important insight - itmight take you a few hours, days, or even weeks tostart to understand it for yourself)
Men only want a relationship with a woman whoalready has about 100 other qualities that theynever mention and could probably never list ordescribe even if they were asked to.
And they'll only end up emotionally involvedand not RESISTING a long term relationship if theyexperience for themselves a woman who proves shehas these qualities over time.
In other words, if a man says, "I need to bealone right now," what he REALLY means is:
I want a woman who will make me FEEL betterwhen I'm with her than I do in my everyday life asa single man.
The REALITY is that when a man says one ofthese "I want my freedom" statements, he actuallyhas an IDEAL woman in mind who understands who heis and won't make it feel like "work" when he'swith her.
A man wants a woman who knows how to have andenjoy a relationship... instead of one who spendsher time and energy trying to analyze, worry about, and "fix" things.
The reality of this situation is that what aman REALLY wants is a woman who makes him feelMORE of the EMOTIONAL and PHYSICAL response I liketo call ATTRACTION... and LESS of the worry andconfusion that men don't often like, or know howto deal with, that comes from "working" on aserious relationship.
For most men, feeling and sharing attraction ona physical and emotional level IS the defintion ofa good relationship.
Of course, I'm not just talking about thecommon "short-term" kind of attraction that'smostly physical...
You already know that a relationship takes awhole lot more than just this kind of thing toreally work and LAST.
I'm also talking about the more "long-term"kind of attraction that comes from a deeperEMOTIONAL connection and understanding.
A man wants a woman who makes him FEEL great,both when he's with her... AND when he's alone.
In other words, they want a woman who knows howto be loving and affectionate, but independent atthe same time.
But most men either can't describe the thingsthat actually make them feel this kind ofCONNECTION and ATTRACTION with a woman, or theydon't WANT to have to describe it to a woman,because they want a woman who already IS thosethings... without having to learn them.
Think about it.
If you were hiring a bodyguard, would you wantone that said, "Yeah, I can be a bodyguard. Justgive me some time to learn..." or would you wantone that already KNEW how to protect and defendat anytime, anywhere without having to "learn"?
Duh.
Well, the same goes with men.
They don't WANT a woman they have to train.
The last thing a man wants to do, is to take awoman who DOESN'T "naturally" understand thesethings, and show her what they are and how theywork.
If you don't already know how to relate to aman in a way that appeals to him and shows himthat you "get" all these things, then no amount of"talking things through" or trying to improvethings together is going to help you or make himstart seeing you as the woman he wants to staywith.
WHAT IS A "COOL GIRL"?
Lately I've been thinking a lot about the ideaof a "Cool Girl."
You hear most men using the term, and somewomen.
Men everywhere, without ever having talked toeach other, share a common idea about women anduse the term "Cool Girl" universally.
In some places the actual words are different,but the idea is the same.
But what does it actually MEAN?
And is it important that men all have thiscommon belief about women?
Well, after thinking about this particulartopic for a long time, I've come to the conclusionthat it is a VERY important topic.
At this point, I believe that a COOL GIRL isthis "ideal" that men imagine when they're saying"I want my freedom."
They're thinking of the COOL GIRL, and thenthey're imagining themselves with a woman who isthis way.
There are a lot of aspects to this COOL GIRL.
Here are a few that are important:
- Lack of Insecurities
- Easygoing
- Humor
- Unpredictability
- Independent
- Emotionally "balanced"
...and the list goes on.
It's actually not easy to describe a COOL GIRLin a few sentences... but the truth is that a mancan recognize one INSTANTLY.
For more on exactly what a COOL GIRL is, howthey naturally communicate with men in a way thatmakes men think, "This is the kind of woman that Ican see myself committing and staying with..."
Then check out my "Catch Him & Keep Him" eBook.
Not only does it describe how men think when itcomes to dating and why they commit to and stay inrelationships with women... but it shows you howto start interacting with men and create a deepergut-level emotional attraction with a manIMMEDIATELY.
You can download it here and be reading it injust a minute:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/eBook
THE MISTAKE WOMEN MAKE
Now, there's a common and often irreversiblemistake that women make with men when they'redating and in relationships.
Let me ask you...
If you wanted to get closer to a man, have himsee you as a great person, develop a strongconnection, and get him to "open up" with you,then it would makes sense to do and say the thingsthat you know work to create more love andaffection, right?
This is the first inclination most women havewith men - to do the things that THEY think createlove and connection.
What if a man did this with you?
What if he decided that you worked the way hedid, and so he decided to come up to you and starttalking about sex, sports, and quickly get closeto you physically?
A man might quickly be drawn in by a woman whodid these things (not for all the right reasons,of course), but that doesn't mean he should betrying them with a woman if he wants any kind ofsuccess.
In other words, the things that work FOR YOU asa woman are NOT what work for a MAN.
Thinking this way couldn't lead to worseresults in dating situations and relationships.
But TONS of women use this tactic of what Icall "Selfish Love." They treat a man the way theywould want to be treated if they were going toshare love and connection with a man.
Another common mistake women make is takingsomething that a man SAYS he wants and doing itTOO MUCH, thinking that if "A little bit isgood, then more must be better."
For instance, a man SAYS to you that he likeswomen who are physical and affectionate". So, youstart touching him all the time, grab his hand andhold it everywhere you go, and always stay rightnext to him.
Then what happens?
He leaves you for his ex-girlfriend aftertelling you he feels like you're too "needy."
Huh? What's going on here?
This would be kind of like a woman saying, "Myfavorite food is chocolate" and a man thinking itwould be good to feed her chocolate for every mealjust because it's her favorite... or addingchocolate to every single dish he makes for herfrom now on... and forgetting that 97% of whatshe eats still needs to be OTHER FOOD.
Let me land the plane for you.
Men don't MEAN what you THINK they mean whenthey talk about what they want and don't want.
And if you take the things men say tooliterally, you're going to wind up shootingyourself in the foot.
WHAT MEN REALLY MEAN...
So, let me "decode" what men "really" mean whenthey say common things.
Consider this your own personal "male languagetranslator." Refer to it often.
WHEN A MAN SAYS...
"I don't want a serious relationship right now."
WHAT HE REALLY MEANS IS...
"I ONLY WANT A RELATIONSHIP with a woman whoalready has her act together, is attractive,healthy, independent, easy-going, confident, andwho is emotionally in control of herself and herown life. When we're together I want her to shareher feelings and challenge and inspire me to keepher love and interest, and to be a great man...but I also want her to know how to do this withouttrying to change me or turning our relationshipinto MORE WORK and LESS FUN than I can have on myown."
Does this make sense?
Again, he's NOT imagining a picture of anoverly-emotional, predictable, needy woman who istrying to get him to connect with her and sharingher feelings because she's so worried about things"working out."
Big difference.
WHEN A MAN SAYS...
"I want an independent woman."
WHAT HE REALLY MEANS IS...
"I want a woman who doesn't get upset about pettythings and who knows how to keep her head whenthings get tough or confusing. But, I also wanther to be in touch with her feelings so that: 1.She doesn't repress her emotions and end up morefrustrated and resentful of me, and... 2. Whenshe's alone and intimate with me, she's open and"present"... and she'll share her love andaffection freely."
What a man is NOT doing is making a picture ofa passive woman whose entire mood and state ofmind is dependent on what she thinks is the stateof her relationship and what it means that a mandid or said something.
WHEN A WOMAN SAYS:
"I want a guy who's a good communicator."
WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS...
"I want a guy who doesn't talk all the time,because he knows how to let me know what's on hismind without using words. I want the kind of guythat can touch me in a certain way and I feeltingles all over my body. And I want the kind ofguy that can say things in a way that Iunderstand... not crudely and man-like."
WHAT MAKES A MAN FEEL COMFORTABLE AND HAPPY WITH AWOMAN
You might not see this right now, but for mostmen, there's nothing more important than knowingthat he makes a woman feel great when she's withhim.
Seriously.
Think "ego."
If you think this truth about men through,you'll start to have a shift in perspective andsee something you've probably never seen before.
When a woman comes to a man and wants to talkabout something she thinks is wrong in theirrelationship, oftentimes a man gets upset notbecause he doesn't want to listen to the woman ortalk...
But because it's difficult for him to come toterms with the idea that the woman could beunhappy with him.
A man thinks, "It makes me feel like less of aman since I don't make her happy. If she'sunhappy, then somewhere inside I must not be goodenough."
Imagine if a man was constantly expressing hisfeelings about your relationship to you thatseemed disappointed and frustrated.
How would it make you feel?
Sure, as a woman you might think to yourselfthat you'd talk to him about it and try and makethings better...
But really you'd start to have one of 2 thingscome into your mind either consciously orsubconsciously:
1. Something really is wrong with YOU and the wayyou are in the relationship, and he's trying totell you...
2. Something is wrong with HIM and how HE thinksand feels that has nothing to do with you, andit's his own "bad thinking" about HIMSELF that'smaking him obsessively unhappy...
Either way, a whole lot MORE DISTANCE iscreated between you two.
Now, lots of women draw the conclusion thatthis means you should try and pretend things areok when they're not.
That when you're not having the physical andemotional connection with a man you know ispossible, that you can't communicate how you feelwith a man.
WRONG.
My point: If you want to learn how to connectwith a man on a deeper level, then what you sayisn't the most IMPORTANT thing.
It's HOW and WHEN you say it.
I'll tell you something -
Learning the secrets of communicating with aman and creating a deep level of Physical and"Emotional Attraction" can be very rewarding.
A lot of women know EXACTLY what it's like tobe in a relationship with a man who has NOINTENTION of committing to something more serious.
In other words, he's not feeling that powerfulgut-level ATTRACTION for you that makes all thefear and excuses for NOT being with you andbuilding a great life and partnership go awaywithout RESISTANCE.
Do you know how to make a man FEEL this waywhen he's with you.
Or are you still trying to "CONVINCE" him withwords and your own knowledge and "logic" that aclose, loving, lasting relationship with him willmake him and you happy together?
Well, let me tell you...
Just like all the other things that a man"says" that he wants and doesn't want with awoman... that most women don't ever "get", beingthe woman a man is NATURALLY ATTRACTED to on adeep level is one of the BIG ONES.
This kind of attraction is THE thing that willmake a man who "says" he doesn't want a seriousrelationship beg a woman for a real commitment anda future together.
If you understand the secrets of how attractionworks for a man, you will notice that men willstart to behave VERY differently around you
Friday, October 3, 2008
ARE WE SINGLE AGAIN?
weresingle again?
They would start meeting new women, go ondates, and once they found a woman they liked andwere very attracted to, they'd spend most of theirtime with this one woman.
And they would do something else...
They'd stop dating any other women they mighthave met and move into another relationship, eventhough they had just ended a relationship withanother women they felt strongly for because theydidn't want a "serious relationship."
It almost didn't make sense when I firststarted to recognize this pattern.
But keep in mind, even though these thingsdon't always make sense to women, they makePERFECT sense to the men going through them.
Does this situation with men ever frustrate youor leave you feeling like men have NO CLUE whatthey're doing?
Here's the problem...
When a man says one of these things, heactually MEANS something that is different fromwhat a woman would mean if she said the samewords.
Let me explain.
If a woman says, "I'm going to stay home andrelax today," she probably means that she's goingto stay home, make sure that her house and life isin order, catch up on chores and bills, and thenmaybe watch some shows on tv.
If a MAN says that he's going to stay home andrelax, he's probably going to watch some sports,drink beer, look at pictures of women on theinternet, and order take-out food.
IMPORTANT NOTICE: If you are reading this rightnow and you are a woman who watches sports, drinksbeer, looks at pictures of women on the internet,and orders take out to relax, then contact meimmediately at the email address below.
Ok, enough kidding around.
Back to our topic...
Men are DIFFERENT from women. And the wordsthey use often don't mean what they SOUND likethey mean.
So, the FIRST thing that you have to getthrough your head is that just because a man SAYSsomething to you, it doesn't always mean what youTHINK it means.
Catch my meaning?
THE BIG SECRET HE ISN'T TELLING YOU
There's a secret that men never happen tomention about what they want with a woman, whythey date, and what it means for them to have arelationship.
Unfortunately, for the good women who aretrying to create a great relationship with aman... and hoping that if they try hard enough tomake him happy with them so he'll stay... thislittle secret is causing a LOT of pain andfrustration.
The SECRET is that most men DO want arelationship with an amazing woman.
BUT... (and this is an important insight - itmight take you a few hours, days, or even weeks tostart to understand it for yourself)
Men only want a relationship with a woman whoalready has about 100 other qualities that theynever mention and could probably never list ordescribe even if they were asked to.
And they'll only end up emotionally involvedand not RESISTING a long term relationship if theyexperience for themselves a woman who proves shehas these qualities over time.
In other words, if a man says, "I need to bealone right now," what he REALLY means is:
I want a woman who will make me FEEL betterwhen I'm with her than I do in my everyday life asa single man.
The REALITY is that when a man says one ofthese "I want my freedom" statements, he actuallyhas an IDEAL woman in mind who understands who heis and won't make it feel like "work" when he'swith her.
A man wants a woman who knows how to have andenjoy a relationship... instead of one who spendsher time and energy trying to analyze, worry about, and "fix" things.
The reality of this situation is that what aman REALLY wants is a woman who makes him feelMORE of the EMOTIONAL and PHYSICAL response I liketo call ATTRACTION... and LESS of the worry andconfusion that men don't often like, or know howto deal with, that comes from "working" on aserious relationship.
For most men, feeling and sharing attraction ona physical and emotional level IS the defintion ofa good relationship.
Of course, I'm not just talking about thecommon "short-term" kind of attraction that'smostly physical...
You already know that a relationship takes awhole lot more than just this kind of thing toreally work and LAST.
I'm also talking about the more "long-term"kind of attraction that comes from a deeperEMOTIONAL connection and understanding.
A man wants a woman who makes him FEEL great,both when he's with her... AND when he's alone.
In other words, they want a woman who knows howto be loving and affectionate, but independent atthe same time.
But most men either can't describe the thingsthat actually make them feel this kind ofCONNECTION and ATTRACTION with a woman, or theydon't WANT to have to describe it to a woman,because they want a woman who already IS thosethings... without having to learn them.
Think about it.
If you were hiring a bodyguard, would you wantone that said, "Yeah, I can be a bodyguard. Justgive me some time to learn..." or would you wantone that already KNEW how to protect and defendat anytime, anywhere without having to "learn"?
Duh.
Well, the same goes with men.
They don't WANT a woman they have to train.
The last thing a man wants to do, is to take awoman who DOESN'T "naturally" understand thesethings, and show her what they are and how theywork.
If you don't already know how to relate to aman in a way that appeals to him and shows himthat you "get" all these things, then no amount of"talking things through" or trying to improvethings together is going to help you or make himstart seeing you as the woman he wants to staywith.
WHAT IS A "COOL GIRL"?
Lately I've been thinking a lot about the ideaof a "Cool Girl."
You hear most men using the term, and somewomen.
Men everywhere, without ever having talked toeach other, share a common idea about women anduse the term "Cool Girl" universally.
In some places the actual words are different,but the idea is the same.
But what does it actually MEAN?
And is it important that men all have thiscommon belief about women?
Well, after thinking about this particulartopic for a long time, I've come to the conclusionthat it is a VERY important topic.
At this point, I believe that a COOL GIRL isthis "ideal" that men imagine when they're saying"I want my freedom."
They're thinking of the COOL GIRL, and thenthey're imagining themselves with a woman who isthis way.
There are a lot of aspects to this COOL GIRL.
Here are a few that are important:
- Lack of Insecurities
- Easygoing
- Humor
- Unpredictability
- Independent
- Emotionally "balanced"
...and the list goes on.
It's actually not easy to describe a COOL GIRLin a few sentences... but the truth is that a mancan recognize one INSTANTLY.
For more on exactly what a COOL GIRL is, howthey naturally communicate with men in a way thatmakes men think, "This is the kind of woman that Ican see myself committing and staying with..."
Then check out my "Catch Him & Keep Him" eBook.
Not only does it describe how men think when itcomes to dating and why they commit to and stay inrelationships with women... but it shows you howto start interacting with men and create a deepergut-level emotional attraction with a manIMMEDIATELY.
You can download it here and be reading it injust a minute:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/eBook
THE MISTAKE WOMEN MAKE
Now, there's a common and often irreversiblemistake that women make with men when they'redating and in relationships.
Let me ask you...
If you wanted to get closer to a man, have himsee you as a great person, develop a strongconnection, and get him to "open up" with you,then it would makes sense to do and say the thingsthat you know work to create more love andaffection, right?
This is the first inclination most women havewith men - to do the things that THEY think createlove and connection.
What if a man did this with you?
What if he decided that you worked the way hedid, and so he decided to come up to you and starttalking about sex, sports, and quickly get closeto you physically?
A man might quickly be drawn in by a woman whodid these things (not for all the right reasons,of course), but that doesn't mean he should betrying them with a woman if he wants any kind ofsuccess.
In other words, the things that work FOR YOU asa woman are NOT what work for a MAN.
Thinking this way couldn't lead to worseresults in dating situations and relationships.
But TONS of women use this tactic of what Icall "Selfish Love." They treat a man the way theywould want to be treated if they were going toshare love and connection with a man.
Another common mistake women make is takingsomething that a man SAYS he wants and doing itTOO MUCH, thinking that if "A little bit isgood, then more must be better."
For instance, a man SAYS to you that he likeswomen who are physical and affectionate". So, youstart touching him all the time, grab his hand andhold it everywhere you go, and always stay rightnext to him.
Then what happens?
He leaves you for his ex-girlfriend aftertelling you he feels like you're too "needy."
Huh? What's going on here?
This would be kind of like a woman saying, "Myfavorite food is chocolate" and a man thinking itwould be good to feed her chocolate for every mealjust because it's her favorite... or addingchocolate to every single dish he makes for herfrom now on... and forgetting that 97% of whatshe eats still needs to be OTHER FOOD.
Let me land the plane for you.
Men don't MEAN what you THINK they mean whenthey talk about what they want and don't want.
And if you take the things men say tooliterally, you're going to wind up shootingyourself in the foot.
WHAT MEN REALLY MEAN...
So, let me "decode" what men "really" mean whenthey say common things.
Consider this your own personal "male languagetranslator." Refer to it often.
WHEN A MAN SAYS...
"I don't want a serious relationship right now."
WHAT HE REALLY MEANS IS...
"I ONLY WANT A RELATIONSHIP with a woman whoalready has her act together, is attractive,healthy, independent, easy-going, confident, andwho is emotionally in control of herself and herown life. When we're together I want her to shareher feelings and challenge and inspire me to keepher love and interest, and to be a great man...but I also want her to know how to do this withouttrying to change me or turning our relationshipinto MORE WORK and LESS FUN than I can have on myown."
Does this make sense?
Again, he's NOT imagining a picture of anoverly-emotional, predictable, needy woman who istrying to get him to connect with her and sharingher feelings because she's so worried about things"working out."
Big difference.
WHEN A MAN SAYS...
"I want an independent woman."
WHAT HE REALLY MEANS IS...
"I want a woman who doesn't get upset about pettythings and who knows how to keep her head whenthings get tough or confusing. But, I also wanther to be in touch with her feelings so that: 1.She doesn't repress her emotions and end up morefrustrated and resentful of me, and... 2. Whenshe's alone and intimate with me, she's open and"present"... and she'll share her love andaffection freely."
What a man is NOT doing is making a picture ofa passive woman whose entire mood and state ofmind is dependent on what she thinks is the stateof her relationship and what it means that a mandid or said something.
WHEN A WOMAN SAYS:
"I want a guy who's a good communicator."
WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS...
"I want a guy who doesn't talk all the time,because he knows how to let me know what's on hismind without using words. I want the kind of guythat can touch me in a certain way and I feeltingles all over my body. And I want the kind ofguy that can say things in a way that Iunderstand... not crudely and man-like."
WHAT MAKES A MAN FEEL COMFORTABLE AND HAPPY WITH AWOMAN
You might not see this right now, but for mostmen, there's nothing more important than knowingthat he makes a woman feel great when she's withhim.
Seriously.
Think "ego."
If you think this truth about men through,you'll start to have a shift in perspective andsee something you've probably never seen before.
When a woman comes to a man and wants to talkabout something she thinks is wrong in theirrelationship, oftentimes a man gets upset notbecause he doesn't want to listen to the woman ortalk...
But because it's difficult for him to come toterms with the idea that the woman could beunhappy with him.
A man thinks, "It makes me feel like less of aman since I don't make her happy. If she'sunhappy, then somewhere inside I must not be goodenough."
Imagine if a man was constantly expressing hisfeelings about your relationship to you thatseemed disappointed and frustrated.
How would it make you feel?
Sure, as a woman you might think to yourselfthat you'd talk to him about it and try and makethings better...
But really you'd start to have one of 2 thingscome into your mind either consciously orsubconsciously:
1. Something really is wrong with YOU and the wayyou are in the relationship, and he's trying totell you...
2. Something is wrong with HIM and how HE thinksand feels that has nothing to do with you, andit's his own "bad thinking" about HIMSELF that'smaking him obsessively unhappy...
Either way, a whole lot MORE DISTANCE iscreated between you two.
Now, lots of women draw the conclusion thatthis means you should try and pretend things areok when they're not.
That when you're not having the physical andemotional connection with a man you know ispossible, that you can't communicate how you feelwith a man.
WRONG.
My point: If you want to learn how to connectwith a man on a deeper level, then what you sayisn't the most IMPORTANT thing.
It's HOW and WHEN you say it.
I'll tell you something -
Learning the secrets of communicating with aman and creating a deep level of Physical and"Emotional Attraction" can be very rewarding.
A lot of women know EXACTLY what it's like tobe in a relationship with a man who has NOINTENTION of committing to something more serious.
In other words, he's not feeling that powerfulgut-level ATTRACTION for you that makes all thefear and excuses for NOT being with you andbuilding a great life and partnership go awaywithout RESISTANCE.
Do you know how to make a man FEEL this waywhen he's with you.
Or are you still trying to "CONVINCE" him withwords and your own knowledge and "logic" that aclose, loving, lasting relationship with him willmake him and you happy together?
Well, let me tell you...
Just like all the other things that a man"says" that he wants and doesn't want with awoman... that most women don't ever "get", beingthe woman a man is NATURALLY ATTRACTED to on adeep level is one of the BIG ONES.
This kind of attraction is THE thing that willmake a man who "says" he doesn't want a seriousrelationship beg a woman for a real commitment anda future together.
If you understand the secrets of how attractionworks for a man, you will notice that men willstart to behave VERY differently around you
And they would do something else...
They'd stop dating any other women they mighthave met and move into another relationship, eventhough they had just ended a relationship withanother women they felt strongly for because theydidn't want a "serious relationship."
It almost didn't make sense when I firststarted to recognize this pattern.
But keep in mind, even though these thingsdon't always make sense to women, they makePERFECT sense to the men going through them.
Does this situation with men ever frustrate youor leave you feeling like men have NO CLUE whatthey're doing?
Here's the problem...
When a man says one of these things, heactually MEANS something that is different fromwhat a woman would mean if she said the samewords.
Let me explain.
If a woman says, "I'm going to stay home andrelax today," she probably means that she's goingto stay home, make sure that her house and life isin order, catch up on chores and bills, and thenmaybe watch some shows on tv.
If a MAN says that he's going to stay home andrelax, he's probably going to watch some sports,drink beer, look at pictures of women on theinternet, and order take-out food.
IMPORTANT NOTICE: If you are reading this rightnow and you are a woman who watches sports, drinksbeer, looks at pictures of women on the internet,and orders take out to relax, then contact meimmediately at the email address below.
Ok, enough kidding around.
Back to our topic...
Men are DIFFERENT from women. And the wordsthey use often don't mean what they SOUND likethey mean.
So, the FIRST thing that you have to getthrough your head is that just because a man SAYSsomething to you, it doesn't always mean what youTHINK it means.
Catch my meaning?
THE BIG SECRET HE ISN'T TELLING YOU
There's a secret that men never happen tomention about what they want with a woman, whythey date, and what it means for them to have arelationship.
Unfortunately, for the good women who aretrying to create a great relationship with aman... and hoping that if they try hard enough tomake him happy with them so he'll stay... thislittle secret is causing a LOT of pain andfrustration.
The SECRET is that most men DO want arelationship with an amazing woman.
BUT... (and this is an important insight - itmight take you a few hours, days, or even weeks tostart to understand it for yourself)
Men only want a relationship with a woman whoalready has about 100 other qualities that theynever mention and could probably never list ordescribe even if they were asked to.
And they'll only end up emotionally involvedand not RESISTING a long term relationship if theyexperience for themselves a woman who proves shehas these qualities over time.
In other words, if a man says, "I need to bealone right now," what he REALLY means is:
I want a woman who will make me FEEL betterwhen I'm with her than I do in my everyday life asa single man.
The REALITY is that when a man says one ofthese "I want my freedom" statements, he actuallyhas an IDEAL woman in mind who understands who heis and won't make it feel like "work" when he'swith her.
A man wants a woman who knows how to have andenjoy a relationship... instead of one who spendsher time and energy trying to analyze, worry about, and "fix" things.
The reality of this situation is that what aman REALLY wants is a woman who makes him feelMORE of the EMOTIONAL and PHYSICAL response I liketo call ATTRACTION... and LESS of the worry andconfusion that men don't often like, or know howto deal with, that comes from "working" on aserious relationship.
For most men, feeling and sharing attraction ona physical and emotional level IS the defintion ofa good relationship.
Of course, I'm not just talking about thecommon "short-term" kind of attraction that'smostly physical...
You already know that a relationship takes awhole lot more than just this kind of thing toreally work and LAST.
I'm also talking about the more "long-term"kind of attraction that comes from a deeperEMOTIONAL connection and understanding.
A man wants a woman who makes him FEEL great,both when he's with her... AND when he's alone.
In other words, they want a woman who knows howto be loving and affectionate, but independent atthe same time.
But most men either can't describe the thingsthat actually make them feel this kind ofCONNECTION and ATTRACTION with a woman, or theydon't WANT to have to describe it to a woman,because they want a woman who already IS thosethings... without having to learn them.
Think about it.
If you were hiring a bodyguard, would you wantone that said, "Yeah, I can be a bodyguard. Justgive me some time to learn..." or would you wantone that already KNEW how to protect and defendat anytime, anywhere without having to "learn"?
Duh.
Well, the same goes with men.
They don't WANT a woman they have to train.
The last thing a man wants to do, is to take awoman who DOESN'T "naturally" understand thesethings, and show her what they are and how theywork.
If you don't already know how to relate to aman in a way that appeals to him and shows himthat you "get" all these things, then no amount of"talking things through" or trying to improvethings together is going to help you or make himstart seeing you as the woman he wants to staywith.
WHAT IS A "COOL GIRL"?
Lately I've been thinking a lot about the ideaof a "Cool Girl."
You hear most men using the term, and somewomen.
Men everywhere, without ever having talked toeach other, share a common idea about women anduse the term "Cool Girl" universally.
In some places the actual words are different,but the idea is the same.
But what does it actually MEAN?
And is it important that men all have thiscommon belief about women?
Well, after thinking about this particulartopic for a long time, I've come to the conclusionthat it is a VERY important topic.
At this point, I believe that a COOL GIRL isthis "ideal" that men imagine when they're saying"I want my freedom."
They're thinking of the COOL GIRL, and thenthey're imagining themselves with a woman who isthis way.
There are a lot of aspects to this COOL GIRL.
Here are a few that are important:
- Lack of Insecurities
- Easygoing
- Humor
- Unpredictability
- Independent
- Emotionally "balanced"
...and the list goes on.
It's actually not easy to describe a COOL GIRLin a few sentences... but the truth is that a mancan recognize one INSTANTLY.
For more on exactly what a COOL GIRL is, howthey naturally communicate with men in a way thatmakes men think, "This is the kind of woman that Ican see myself committing and staying with..."
Then check out my "Catch Him & Keep Him" eBook.
Not only does it describe how men think when itcomes to dating and why they commit to and stay inrelationships with women... but it shows you howto start interacting with men and create a deepergut-level emotional attraction with a manIMMEDIATELY.
You can download it here and be reading it injust a minute:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/eBook
THE MISTAKE WOMEN MAKE
Now, there's a common and often irreversiblemistake that women make with men when they'redating and in relationships.
Let me ask you...
If you wanted to get closer to a man, have himsee you as a great person, develop a strongconnection, and get him to "open up" with you,then it would makes sense to do and say the thingsthat you know work to create more love andaffection, right?
This is the first inclination most women havewith men - to do the things that THEY think createlove and connection.
What if a man did this with you?
What if he decided that you worked the way hedid, and so he decided to come up to you and starttalking about sex, sports, and quickly get closeto you physically?
A man might quickly be drawn in by a woman whodid these things (not for all the right reasons,of course), but that doesn't mean he should betrying them with a woman if he wants any kind ofsuccess.
In other words, the things that work FOR YOU asa woman are NOT what work for a MAN.
Thinking this way couldn't lead to worseresults in dating situations and relationships.
But TONS of women use this tactic of what Icall "Selfish Love." They treat a man the way theywould want to be treated if they were going toshare love and connection with a man.
Another common mistake women make is takingsomething that a man SAYS he wants and doing itTOO MUCH, thinking that if "A little bit isgood, then more must be better."
For instance, a man SAYS to you that he likeswomen who are physical and affectionate". So, youstart touching him all the time, grab his hand andhold it everywhere you go, and always stay rightnext to him.
Then what happens?
He leaves you for his ex-girlfriend aftertelling you he feels like you're too "needy."
Huh? What's going on here?
This would be kind of like a woman saying, "Myfavorite food is chocolate" and a man thinking itwould be good to feed her chocolate for every mealjust because it's her favorite... or addingchocolate to every single dish he makes for herfrom now on... and forgetting that 97% of whatshe eats still needs to be OTHER FOOD.
Let me land the plane for you.
Men don't MEAN what you THINK they mean whenthey talk about what they want and don't want.
And if you take the things men say tooliterally, you're going to wind up shootingyourself in the foot.
WHAT MEN REALLY MEAN...
So, let me "decode" what men "really" mean whenthey say common things.
Consider this your own personal "male languagetranslator." Refer to it often.
WHEN A MAN SAYS...
"I don't want a serious relationship right now."
WHAT HE REALLY MEANS IS...
"I ONLY WANT A RELATIONSHIP with a woman whoalready has her act together, is attractive,healthy, independent, easy-going, confident, andwho is emotionally in control of herself and herown life. When we're together I want her to shareher feelings and challenge and inspire me to keepher love and interest, and to be a great man...but I also want her to know how to do this withouttrying to change me or turning our relationshipinto MORE WORK and LESS FUN than I can have on myown."
Does this make sense?
Again, he's NOT imagining a picture of anoverly-emotional, predictable, needy woman who istrying to get him to connect with her and sharingher feelings because she's so worried about things"working out."
Big difference.
WHEN A MAN SAYS...
"I want an independent woman."
WHAT HE REALLY MEANS IS...
"I want a woman who doesn't get upset about pettythings and who knows how to keep her head whenthings get tough or confusing. But, I also wanther to be in touch with her feelings so that: 1.She doesn't repress her emotions and end up morefrustrated and resentful of me, and... 2. Whenshe's alone and intimate with me, she's open and"present"... and she'll share her love andaffection freely."
What a man is NOT doing is making a picture ofa passive woman whose entire mood and state ofmind is dependent on what she thinks is the stateof her relationship and what it means that a mandid or said something.
WHEN A WOMAN SAYS:
"I want a guy who's a good communicator."
WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS...
"I want a guy who doesn't talk all the time,because he knows how to let me know what's on hismind without using words. I want the kind of guythat can touch me in a certain way and I feeltingles all over my body. And I want the kind ofguy that can say things in a way that Iunderstand... not crudely and man-like."
WHAT MAKES A MAN FEEL COMFORTABLE AND HAPPY WITH AWOMAN
You might not see this right now, but for mostmen, there's nothing more important than knowingthat he makes a woman feel great when she's withhim.
Seriously.
Think "ego."
If you think this truth about men through,you'll start to have a shift in perspective andsee something you've probably never seen before.
When a woman comes to a man and wants to talkabout something she thinks is wrong in theirrelationship, oftentimes a man gets upset notbecause he doesn't want to listen to the woman ortalk...
But because it's difficult for him to come toterms with the idea that the woman could beunhappy with him.
A man thinks, "It makes me feel like less of aman since I don't make her happy. If she'sunhappy, then somewhere inside I must not be goodenough."
Imagine if a man was constantly expressing hisfeelings about your relationship to you thatseemed disappointed and frustrated.
How would it make you feel?
Sure, as a woman you might think to yourselfthat you'd talk to him about it and try and makethings better...
But really you'd start to have one of 2 thingscome into your mind either consciously orsubconsciously:
1. Something really is wrong with YOU and the wayyou are in the relationship, and he's trying totell you...
2. Something is wrong with HIM and how HE thinksand feels that has nothing to do with you, andit's his own "bad thinking" about HIMSELF that'smaking him obsessively unhappy...
Either way, a whole lot MORE DISTANCE iscreated between you two.
Now, lots of women draw the conclusion thatthis means you should try and pretend things areok when they're not.
That when you're not having the physical andemotional connection with a man you know ispossible, that you can't communicate how you feelwith a man.
WRONG.
My point: If you want to learn how to connectwith a man on a deeper level, then what you sayisn't the most IMPORTANT thing.
It's HOW and WHEN you say it.
I'll tell you something -
Learning the secrets of communicating with aman and creating a deep level of Physical and"Emotional Attraction" can be very rewarding.
A lot of women know EXACTLY what it's like tobe in a relationship with a man who has NOINTENTION of committing to something more serious.
In other words, he's not feeling that powerfulgut-level ATTRACTION for you that makes all thefear and excuses for NOT being with you andbuilding a great life and partnership go awaywithout RESISTANCE.
Do you know how to make a man FEEL this waywhen he's with you.
Or are you still trying to "CONVINCE" him withwords and your own knowledge and "logic" that aclose, loving, lasting relationship with him willmake him and you happy together?
Well, let me tell you...
Just like all the other things that a man"says" that he wants and doesn't want with awoman... that most women don't ever "get", beingthe woman a man is NATURALLY ATTRACTED to on adeep level is one of the BIG ONES.
This kind of attraction is THE thing that willmake a man who "says" he doesn't want a seriousrelationship beg a woman for a real commitment anda future together.
If you understand the secrets of how attractionworks for a man, you will notice that men willstart to behave VERY differently around you
HOW YOU CAN KEEP YOUR MAN
HOW YOU CAN KEEP YOUR MAN
I want you to think about it again with a few things you've already learned here...
Does what you do and say with the man in your life INSPIRE HIM to want more with you and to open up in a way he never has before with a woman?
Or does he feel TIRED and DRAINED by you and your relationship... and he CLOSES OFF the way a man will when he feels emotionally overwhelmed by a woman?
Think about him for a second... and try and put YOUR SIDE of things and what you think he should be thinking or doing aside.
How is he feeling?
And how is he experiencing you and your relationship?
Think about it for a few seconds...
Oh, and don't worry - I'll get to talking about how to make sure YOUR FEELINGS are a priority here too... and how to get them heard.
In this email I'm going to share with you a few inside secrets from a man's perspective on how you could accidentally be getting in the way of the great connection the man in your life feels when he's with you.
If this CONNECTION is nurtured in the right way, it can be the foundation for creating a great RELATIONSHIP a man will beg you to commit to with him.
If this CONNECTION is over-analyzed, questioned,
or clouded up by too much fear and anxiety and questioning... then starting a real relationship with a man is going to be practically impossible.
I'm sure you've heard of that whole "putting the cart before the horse" thing.
Trying to get a man to know how he feels and what he wants in a relationship with you before he's even had chance to enjoy the CONNECTION you share and discover what it means to HIM is a surefire way to ruin a good thing. Please... don't do it.
The problem is, most women don't Consciously choose to put the cart before the horse with aman.
It's their EMOTIONS that call them to action and take over.
There's nothing wrong with having your feelings, or with sharing them.
It's healthy and important to share what's on your mind and how you feel.
But HOW you share what you think and feel with A man is what makes all the difference.
I'm going to show you how, without knowing it, you could be killing that special CONNECTION and the ATTRACTION a man feels for you.
When you get in the way of what makes a man FEEL that intense ATTRACTION that drew him to you in the first place, he'll do something that can easily spell the beginning of the end-
He'll CLOSE OFF to his DESIRE for you... and question EVERYTHING about whether you're the right woman for him to be with and STAY with.
Which brings me to an important question I want to ask you.
And please, answer this as honestly as you can... as this is something that can help you immediately.
Here's the question...
If you have a man who's acting WITHDRAWN and pulling away from you... could it be possible that something YOU are doing is somehow keeping him from feeling INSPIRED to want to be with you?
And that the more you sense his hesitation and UNCERTAINTY about you and whether he wants to stay in your relationship... the more you subtly REACT and RESPOND to this out of fear and do things that only push him farther away?
Don't accidentally show a man things that will unconsciously shift his feelings for you to a "casual" relationship in his mind where he'll only want to be with you as long as it's easy and convenient for him.
I call this the "For Now" Relationship.
A man could be with you, be faithful and committed, but only be thinking of you "for now."
On the other hand... if you know the right things to say and do that will instantly show him that you're the kind of woman who he would be better off with than without... then he'll quickly shift to what I call a "Forever" Relationship with you.
This is where a man doesn't just think of you and love you "for now", but forever.
*Tip: If you're finding that it's EASY to get a guy interested at first... but HARD to find that one truly RIGHT MAN and turn your chemistry and connection into a great and lasting relationship that LASTS and goes deeper than "for now" in his mind, then it's time you stopped the common pattern in your life too many other women share.
I'm talking about the pattern of:
1) meeting a new guy
2) getting instantly wrapped up in your new "relationship"
3) telling yourself it's different this time
4) finding out it's not that different with this man than it was with "the others"... even though he's a good guy
5) trying the same things you've always tried to fix what's not working so he'll figure it out
6) feeling shocked, drained and heartbroken
(again) when you find your back in the same place you swore you wouldn't get into after your last relationship
7) thinking you should give up on men and love altogether
Why is this pattern so common?
Here's one of the big pieces of the puzzle...
Too many women make the same set of mistakes early on when "dating" and in new relationships that literally cause a man to shift his thinking and feelings 180 degrees back to wanting his "freedom" and not being "ready" for a real relationship.
Don't let this happen to you, when you know you are finally with the right man and you just need to get your relationship to the right place for love to keep blossoming.
It doesn't have to work this way where a man always PULLS AWAY and RESISTS your love and your relationship.
It can be easy. But only if you learn what really works with a man and what the few simple things are a man needs to see, feel, and experience with you along the way so that he doesn't question wanting to be with you and only you.
Don't keep making the single biggest mistake that causes a man to react and bring an early end to your growing relationship.
I call this mistake the "Instant Relationship."
I'll explain it briefly like this...
*And here's an article I've posted online that'sall about this mistake, and what to do instead to draw the right man to you and have him quickly fall for you and want the kind of relationship that will grow and last:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/MeetingTheOne
Ok, back to explaining the "Instant
Relationship."
You know how when you meet a man you're sure is the right one for you... you can just feel it.
When you're together, you feel more comfortable than you can remember feeling with any man.
You feel like you've known this man most of your life... even though you've only just met.
And the CONNECTION you share is so amazing and filled with excitement and CHEMISTRY that there's no doubt in your mind - this could be the right one.
As time goes on, you and he fall into a nice little groove of spending most of your time together and practically living your lives alone.
But it hasn't been long at all. A few weeks or months.
And then it happens-
He does something that let's you know he mightn't be truly "in this" with you.
Something about how he talks or acts tips you off to the fact that something has changed or shifted about him.
So what do you do...
You ask him about it.
And you ask him to explain why he's acting weird and different... and you tell him that it's kind of freaking you out and hurting your feelings.
You expect him to listen, hear you, and respond in the sweet and loving way you've known him to be the whole time you've been with him.
But suddenly he shows you a side of him you've never seen before.
Suddenly he's no longer open, no longer affectionate, and you can tell he's holding backhand closed off to you.
You decide to ask him what the deal is, and what this relationship means to him.
You've got to know. Especially since your heart is out there on the line... and who knows what's really going on inside his head now.
But the more you need to hear from him on how
he's feeling... and the more you want to let him know what's happening for you with all this... the less he's open to talking.
In fact, the less he even wants to spend time with you - where before he wanted to be with you whenever he had free time.
Now he's off wanting to hang out with his friends, or leaving town, etc.
Or worse, you learn he's out with another woman.
Argggh... what a jerk!
You can't help wonder what in the world is going on here, and inside his mind.
And then it hits you after him pulling away completely-
As much as you knew this was going to be a great relationship, and you felt how real and special what you shared was... this wasn't a "real" relationship at all.
He wasn't really "in it" with you - and his behavior now shows you that it was this way all along.
You just didn't see it before.
But he seemed so into you and your relationship, so how could he have all of a sudden changed his mind and pulled away?
Let's break it down on what's going on here.
There are a few fascinating things going on you need to know about...
1) Men have different "Relationship Tempos"
A man can be with a woman, experience an amazing and special connection with her that he's never shared with another woman... and he can have no desire to get into a "relationship"with her. Even after several weeks or months of amazing time spent together.
For a man, the CONNECTION does not equal relationship.
2) A Man Has More Than One Kind Of "Commitment"In His Heart
There's something important you need to know about men and how they "date."
A man can be with a woman, have very strong
feelings for her, and want to spend all his time with that woman... and be completely content with the situation only being something he wants to be in "for now."
A man can even say that he cares for and loaves a woman... but still only have that "for now" feeling.
On the other hand, when a man feels a different set of feelings inside himself with a woman, he can quickly start to feel the "Forever" feelings where when he builds a relationship with a woman,it's not with the intention of doing it just "for now"... but FOREVER.
Now that you know about these 2 important aspects of how men think... I think you're ready to see what I mean by the "Instant Relationship"I mentioned earlier, and how it's a huge mistake tons of women make with men that drive them away.
The Instant Relationship mistake is when a woman starts talking, feeling, and acting with a man in a way that tells him she's already in a COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP with him - before they ever have one and the man has developed the feelings and the desire to truly commit.
when the EXPECTATIONS a woman has for a man are the kinds of expectations a woman who is in a long-term committed relationship has of a man,but there is no commitment yet - it is an instant attraction killer for a man.
Not only does it kill the attraction a man feels for a woman... but it actually makes a man NOT want to explore a relationship with that woman.
For men, when a woman falls into an "Instant Relationship" with them, it's the #1 turn off and a guaranteed way to make a man rethink moving ahead in a more serious relationship.
By the way, you've already heard men talk about women who make the Instant Relationship mistake, and you know how men talk and feel about all this.
This "Instant Relationship" thing is sometimes just referred to by men as a woman being "needy" or "clingy."
But the impact of a man seeing or feeling these things about a woman goes much much deeper than just words and names.
If you want a man to stay open to you and to creating a REAL RELATIONSHIP that can and will grow and last... then I have one simple piece of advice-
Now that you know what the Instant Relationships, and all the behavior that goes along with it that kills attraction inside men... DO NOT act like you're in an instant relationship with a man.
That is, unless you want to send him running for the hills. To learn more about how to avoid making the mistakes that show a man you're "needy" with him in the Instant Relationship kind of way... andto know exactly what to do instead to attract the right man and have him wanting your new relationship to grow you need to check this out:
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Does what you do and say with the man in your life INSPIRE HIM to want more with you and to open up in a way he never has before with a woman?
Or does he feel TIRED and DRAINED by you and your relationship... and he CLOSES OFF the way a man will when he feels emotionally overwhelmed by a woman?
Think about him for a second... and try and put YOUR SIDE of things and what you think he should be thinking or doing aside.
How is he feeling?
And how is he experiencing you and your relationship?
Think about it for a few seconds...
Oh, and don't worry - I'll get to talking about how to make sure YOUR FEELINGS are a priority here too... and how to get them heard.
In this email I'm going to share with you a few inside secrets from a man's perspective on how you could accidentally be getting in the way of the great connection the man in your life feels when he's with you.
If this CONNECTION is nurtured in the right way, it can be the foundation for creating a great RELATIONSHIP a man will beg you to commit to with him.
If this CONNECTION is over-analyzed, questioned,
or clouded up by too much fear and anxiety and questioning... then starting a real relationship with a man is going to be practically impossible.
I'm sure you've heard of that whole "putting the cart before the horse" thing.
Trying to get a man to know how he feels and what he wants in a relationship with you before he's even had chance to enjoy the CONNECTION you share and discover what it means to HIM is a surefire way to ruin a good thing. Please... don't do it.
The problem is, most women don't Consciously choose to put the cart before the horse with aman.
It's their EMOTIONS that call them to action and take over.
There's nothing wrong with having your feelings, or with sharing them.
It's healthy and important to share what's on your mind and how you feel.
But HOW you share what you think and feel with A man is what makes all the difference.
I'm going to show you how, without knowing it, you could be killing that special CONNECTION and the ATTRACTION a man feels for you.
When you get in the way of what makes a man FEEL that intense ATTRACTION that drew him to you in the first place, he'll do something that can easily spell the beginning of the end-
He'll CLOSE OFF to his DESIRE for you... and question EVERYTHING about whether you're the right woman for him to be with and STAY with.
Which brings me to an important question I want to ask you.
And please, answer this as honestly as you can... as this is something that can help you immediately.
Here's the question...
If you have a man who's acting WITHDRAWN and pulling away from you... could it be possible that something YOU are doing is somehow keeping him from feeling INSPIRED to want to be with you?
And that the more you sense his hesitation and UNCERTAINTY about you and whether he wants to stay in your relationship... the more you subtly REACT and RESPOND to this out of fear and do things that only push him farther away?
Don't accidentally show a man things that will unconsciously shift his feelings for you to a "casual" relationship in his mind where he'll only want to be with you as long as it's easy and convenient for him.
I call this the "For Now" Relationship.
A man could be with you, be faithful and committed, but only be thinking of you "for now."
On the other hand... if you know the right things to say and do that will instantly show him that you're the kind of woman who he would be better off with than without... then he'll quickly shift to what I call a "Forever" Relationship with you.
This is where a man doesn't just think of you and love you "for now", but forever.
*Tip: If you're finding that it's EASY to get a guy interested at first... but HARD to find that one truly RIGHT MAN and turn your chemistry and connection into a great and lasting relationship that LASTS and goes deeper than "for now" in his mind, then it's time you stopped the common pattern in your life too many other women share.
I'm talking about the pattern of:
1) meeting a new guy
2) getting instantly wrapped up in your new "relationship"
3) telling yourself it's different this time
4) finding out it's not that different with this man than it was with "the others"... even though he's a good guy
5) trying the same things you've always tried to fix what's not working so he'll figure it out
6) feeling shocked, drained and heartbroken
(again) when you find your back in the same place you swore you wouldn't get into after your last relationship
7) thinking you should give up on men and love altogether
Why is this pattern so common?
Here's one of the big pieces of the puzzle...
Too many women make the same set of mistakes early on when "dating" and in new relationships that literally cause a man to shift his thinking and feelings 180 degrees back to wanting his "freedom" and not being "ready" for a real relationship.
Don't let this happen to you, when you know you are finally with the right man and you just need to get your relationship to the right place for love to keep blossoming.
It doesn't have to work this way where a man always PULLS AWAY and RESISTS your love and your relationship.
It can be easy. But only if you learn what really works with a man and what the few simple things are a man needs to see, feel, and experience with you along the way so that he doesn't question wanting to be with you and only you.
Don't keep making the single biggest mistake that causes a man to react and bring an early end to your growing relationship.
I call this mistake the "Instant Relationship."
I'll explain it briefly like this...
*And here's an article I've posted online that'sall about this mistake, and what to do instead to draw the right man to you and have him quickly fall for you and want the kind of relationship that will grow and last:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/MeetingTheOne
Ok, back to explaining the "Instant
Relationship."
You know how when you meet a man you're sure is the right one for you... you can just feel it.
When you're together, you feel more comfortable than you can remember feeling with any man.
You feel like you've known this man most of your life... even though you've only just met.
And the CONNECTION you share is so amazing and filled with excitement and CHEMISTRY that there's no doubt in your mind - this could be the right one.
As time goes on, you and he fall into a nice little groove of spending most of your time together and practically living your lives alone.
But it hasn't been long at all. A few weeks or months.
And then it happens-
He does something that let's you know he mightn't be truly "in this" with you.
Something about how he talks or acts tips you off to the fact that something has changed or shifted about him.
So what do you do...
You ask him about it.
And you ask him to explain why he's acting weird and different... and you tell him that it's kind of freaking you out and hurting your feelings.
You expect him to listen, hear you, and respond in the sweet and loving way you've known him to be the whole time you've been with him.
But suddenly he shows you a side of him you've never seen before.
Suddenly he's no longer open, no longer affectionate, and you can tell he's holding backhand closed off to you.
You decide to ask him what the deal is, and what this relationship means to him.
You've got to know. Especially since your heart is out there on the line... and who knows what's really going on inside his head now.
But the more you need to hear from him on how
he's feeling... and the more you want to let him know what's happening for you with all this... the less he's open to talking.
In fact, the less he even wants to spend time with you - where before he wanted to be with you whenever he had free time.
Now he's off wanting to hang out with his friends, or leaving town, etc.
Or worse, you learn he's out with another woman.
Argggh... what a jerk!
You can't help wonder what in the world is going on here, and inside his mind.
And then it hits you after him pulling away completely-
As much as you knew this was going to be a great relationship, and you felt how real and special what you shared was... this wasn't a "real" relationship at all.
He wasn't really "in it" with you - and his behavior now shows you that it was this way all along.
You just didn't see it before.
But he seemed so into you and your relationship, so how could he have all of a sudden changed his mind and pulled away?
Let's break it down on what's going on here.
There are a few fascinating things going on you need to know about...
1) Men have different "Relationship Tempos"
A man can be with a woman, experience an amazing and special connection with her that he's never shared with another woman... and he can have no desire to get into a "relationship"with her. Even after several weeks or months of amazing time spent together.
For a man, the CONNECTION does not equal relationship.
2) A Man Has More Than One Kind Of "Commitment"In His Heart
There's something important you need to know about men and how they "date."
A man can be with a woman, have very strong
feelings for her, and want to spend all his time with that woman... and be completely content with the situation only being something he wants to be in "for now."
A man can even say that he cares for and loaves a woman... but still only have that "for now" feeling.
On the other hand, when a man feels a different set of feelings inside himself with a woman, he can quickly start to feel the "Forever" feelings where when he builds a relationship with a woman,it's not with the intention of doing it just "for now"... but FOREVER.
Now that you know about these 2 important aspects of how men think... I think you're ready to see what I mean by the "Instant Relationship"I mentioned earlier, and how it's a huge mistake tons of women make with men that drive them away.
The Instant Relationship mistake is when a woman starts talking, feeling, and acting with a man in a way that tells him she's already in a COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP with him - before they ever have one and the man has developed the feelings and the desire to truly commit.
when the EXPECTATIONS a woman has for a man are the kinds of expectations a woman who is in a long-term committed relationship has of a man,but there is no commitment yet - it is an instant attraction killer for a man.
Not only does it kill the attraction a man feels for a woman... but it actually makes a man NOT want to explore a relationship with that woman.
For men, when a woman falls into an "Instant Relationship" with them, it's the #1 turn off and a guaranteed way to make a man rethink moving ahead in a more serious relationship.
By the way, you've already heard men talk about women who make the Instant Relationship mistake, and you know how men talk and feel about all this.
This "Instant Relationship" thing is sometimes just referred to by men as a woman being "needy" or "clingy."
But the impact of a man seeing or feeling these things about a woman goes much much deeper than just words and names.
If you want a man to stay open to you and to creating a REAL RELATIONSHIP that can and will grow and last... then I have one simple piece of advice-
Now that you know what the Instant Relationships, and all the behavior that goes along with it that kills attraction inside men... DO NOT act like you're in an instant relationship with a man.
That is, unless you want to send him running for the hills. To learn more about how to avoid making the mistakes that show a man you're "needy" with him in the Instant Relationship kind of way... andto know exactly what to do instead to attract the right man and have him wanting your new relationship to grow you need to check this out:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/MeetingTheOne
To learn exactly what you can do to identify the right man for you, quickly capture his interest and attention... and have him PURSUING YOU and asking you for a more serious relationship, the secrets I show you in my "Meeting The One" program will make life and starting your new relationship with a man fun and easy.
Don't keep repeating the same patterns of chemistry, dating, and having it go nowhere - when you can quickly shift things into gear with a few small changes that will have the man you want PURSUING YOU for a relationship.
Check out the free tips and video clips of me
teaching what to do and say to attract the right man for you and start a great relationship where you don't have to do all the "work" right here:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/MeetingTheOne
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Luckily, there is a way to start removingsome of the "risk" and the guesswork thatkeeping a man feeling deeply committed to youand your relationship can be.
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Your Friend,
Christian Carter
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I'll start here:
What do you think is the single most importantthing that makes or breaks your new relationship?
I'll tell you-
After that initial ATTRACTION is created andshared between you both... the single most important part of your new relationship is thelevel of COMMUNICATION you and a man share.
All the very best secrets I've discovered afteryears of research, observation, and helping womenquickly turn their relationships around is right here:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/CommunicationSecrets
I'll get right to the point regarding how this important part of relationships is workingout for YOU-
Does the way you and the man in your life communicate make you feel loved and appreciated?
Or does it only frustrate you and make you feel sad, alone, and misunderstood?
If you don't know what to say to a man to start open conversations about your relationship and the feelings you're both having without triggering him to pull away... then creating a real relationship where you can truly love and support each other is going to be an impossible struggle.
There's an easier way...
Do you know the SECRETS that will make a man feel excited and inspired to talk, listen, and share his feelings with you... even if he's never been this way before in a relationship?
The reality is, most men don't just open up and communicate the way you want and need them to.
And because of this, lots of women end up trying to compensate by TALKING MORE and doing all the "work" in their relationship.
Of course, this just drains you and encourages the man you're with to WITHDRAW even more.
The things that allow you and a man to listen, hear and understand each other aren't "givens" in your relationship.
Just because you have strong FEELINGS for each other, it doesn't mean you're going to have thekind of COMMUNICATION you need to make your relationship truly work and LAST.
More love and sacrifice on your part is NOTgoing to make the lack of communication and sharing you have in your relationship better.
But you're thoughtful and generous for tryingthis and caring enough to give even more of yourself.
Unfortunately, stretching yourself to the pointof frustration and emotional break-down isn't going to help you - or him.
So then what should you do?
There are a few essential "keys" to building an "open line" of communication in your relationship with a man that will prevent him from closing off, withdrawing, and becoming distant no matter what happens between you.
Do you know how to share YOUR FEELINGS with aman (even the most intense ones that scare you too)so that instead of getting irritated or freaked out by them... he listens in a supportive and understanding way?
I've been able to boil down the complex process of what makes talking and communicationin your relationship work so that the more youshare - the more a man is drawn to you and wantsto give you love and understanding.
At the essence of what makes things work is the "hidden message" behind what you're saying toa man that even you aren't fully aware of - but have everything to do with YOUR FEELINGS and theresponse deep down you really want from him.
Each time you try and share something with a man, and each time he responds to you (or doesn't)... there's a subtle message being communicated under the surface.
And this is going on even if you don't seethis right now, or believe it's there or not.
Each communication has what's called a "bid"to it. And a "bid" is the hidden "subtext" thatis what we REALLY MEAN, or are really asking for.
For example, a man might say to you-
"Honey, I don't feel like talking right now" and do it with a tone of voice that shows he'sfrustrated or annoyed.
This is a "bid."
What a man REALLY MEANS when he says this is-
What do you think is the single most importantthing that makes or breaks your new relationship?
I'll tell you-
After that initial ATTRACTION is created andshared between you both... the single most important part of your new relationship is thelevel of COMMUNICATION you and a man share.
All the very best secrets I've discovered afteryears of research, observation, and helping womenquickly turn their relationships around is right here:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/CommunicationSecrets
I'll get right to the point regarding how this important part of relationships is workingout for YOU-
Does the way you and the man in your life communicate make you feel loved and appreciated?
Or does it only frustrate you and make you feel sad, alone, and misunderstood?
If you don't know what to say to a man to start open conversations about your relationship and the feelings you're both having without triggering him to pull away... then creating a real relationship where you can truly love and support each other is going to be an impossible struggle.
There's an easier way...
Do you know the SECRETS that will make a man feel excited and inspired to talk, listen, and share his feelings with you... even if he's never been this way before in a relationship?
The reality is, most men don't just open up and communicate the way you want and need them to.
And because of this, lots of women end up trying to compensate by TALKING MORE and doing all the "work" in their relationship.
Of course, this just drains you and encourages the man you're with to WITHDRAW even more.
The things that allow you and a man to listen, hear and understand each other aren't "givens" in your relationship.
Just because you have strong FEELINGS for each other, it doesn't mean you're going to have thekind of COMMUNICATION you need to make your relationship truly work and LAST.
More love and sacrifice on your part is NOTgoing to make the lack of communication and sharing you have in your relationship better.
But you're thoughtful and generous for tryingthis and caring enough to give even more of yourself.
Unfortunately, stretching yourself to the pointof frustration and emotional break-down isn't going to help you - or him.
So then what should you do?
There are a few essential "keys" to building an "open line" of communication in your relationship with a man that will prevent him from closing off, withdrawing, and becoming distant no matter what happens between you.
Do you know how to share YOUR FEELINGS with aman (even the most intense ones that scare you too)so that instead of getting irritated or freaked out by them... he listens in a supportive and understanding way?
I've been able to boil down the complex process of what makes talking and communicationin your relationship work so that the more youshare - the more a man is drawn to you and wantsto give you love and understanding.
At the essence of what makes things work is the "hidden message" behind what you're saying toa man that even you aren't fully aware of - but have everything to do with YOUR FEELINGS and theresponse deep down you really want from him.
Each time you try and share something with a man, and each time he responds to you (or doesn't)... there's a subtle message being communicated under the surface.
And this is going on even if you don't seethis right now, or believe it's there or not.
Each communication has what's called a "bid"to it. And a "bid" is the hidden "subtext" thatis what we REALLY MEAN, or are really asking for.
For example, a man might say to you-
"Honey, I don't feel like talking right now" and do it with a tone of voice that shows he'sfrustrated or annoyed.
This is a "bid."
What a man REALLY MEANS when he says this is-
Monday, September 29, 2008
POEMS BY GREAT LOVE POETS
Love built on beauty, soon as beauty, dies." John Donne Poet - Famous Love Poems Quote
"He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals." Benjamin Franklin - Famous Quote
"If you would be loved, love and be lovable." Benjamin Franklin - Famous Quote
"Love is not love that alters when it alteration finds." William Shakespeare - Famous Quote
"The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost." G. K. Chesterton - Famous Quote
Romantic love is an illusion. Most of us discover this truth at the end of a love affair or else when the sweet emotions of love lead us into marriage and then turn down their flames. Thomas Moore - Famous Quote
Love, free as air at sight of human ties, Spreads his light wings, and in a moment flies.
Alexander Pope - Famous Love Poems Quote
Love is a spirit of all compact of fire. William Shakespeare Poet - Famous Quote
The course of true love never did run smooth. William Shakespeare - Famous Quote
I have great hopes that we shall love each other all our lives as much as if we had never married at all.
Lord Byron - Famous Quote
Love seeketh not itself to please, nor for itself hath any care, but for another gives its ease,
and builds a Heaven in Hell's despair. William Blake - Poet - Famous Love Poems Quote
The Poems, Poetry, and Poets on this Site
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"He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals." Benjamin Franklin - Famous Quote
"If you would be loved, love and be lovable." Benjamin Franklin - Famous Quote
"Love is not love that alters when it alteration finds." William Shakespeare - Famous Quote
"The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost." G. K. Chesterton - Famous Quote
Romantic love is an illusion. Most of us discover this truth at the end of a love affair or else when the sweet emotions of love lead us into marriage and then turn down their flames. Thomas Moore - Famous Quote
Love, free as air at sight of human ties, Spreads his light wings, and in a moment flies.
Alexander Pope - Famous Love Poems Quote
Love is a spirit of all compact of fire. William Shakespeare Poet - Famous Quote
The course of true love never did run smooth. William Shakespeare - Famous Quote
I have great hopes that we shall love each other all our lives as much as if we had never married at all.
Lord Byron - Famous Quote
Love seeketh not itself to please, nor for itself hath any care, but for another gives its ease,
and builds a Heaven in Hell's despair. William Blake - Poet - Famous Love Poems Quote
The Poems, Poetry, and Poets on this Site
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My Love
My love is like an ocean
It goes down so deep
My love is like a rose
Whose beauty you want to keep.
My love is like a river
That will never end
My love is like a dove
With a beautiful message to send.
My love is like a song
That goes on and on forever
My love is like a prisoner
It's to you that I surrender.
My love is like an ocean
It goes down so deep
My love is like a rose
Whose beauty you want to keep.
My love is like a river
That will never end
My love is like a dove
With a beautiful message to send.
My love is like a song
That goes on and on forever
My love is like a prisoner
It's to you that I surrender.
Love Defined
What is love, but an emotion,
So strong and so pure,
That nurtured and shared with another
All tests it will endure?
What is love, but a force
To bring the mighty low,
With the strength to shame the mountains
And halt time’s ceaseless flow?
What is love, but a triumph,
A glorious goal attained,
The union of two souls, two hearts
A bond the angels have ordained?
What is love, but a champion,
To cast the tyrant from his throne,
And raise the flag of truth and peace,
And fear of death o’erthrow?
What is love, but a beacon,
To guide the wayward heart,
A blazing light upon the shoals
That dash cherished dreams apart?
And what is love, but forever,
Eternal and sincere,
A flame that through wax and wane
Will outlive life’s brief years?
So I’ll tell it on the mountaintops,
In all places high and low,
That love for you is my reason to be,
And will never break or bow.
- Matt
What is love, but an emotion,
So strong and so pure,
That nurtured and shared with another
All tests it will endure?
What is love, but a force
To bring the mighty low,
With the strength to shame the mountains
And halt time’s ceaseless flow?
What is love, but a triumph,
A glorious goal attained,
The union of two souls, two hearts
A bond the angels have ordained?
What is love, but a champion,
To cast the tyrant from his throne,
And raise the flag of truth and peace,
And fear of death o’erthrow?
What is love, but a beacon,
To guide the wayward heart,
A blazing light upon the shoals
That dash cherished dreams apart?
And what is love, but forever,
Eternal and sincere,
A flame that through wax and wane
Will outlive life’s brief years?
So I’ll tell it on the mountaintops,
In all places high and low,
That love for you is my reason to be,
And will never break or bow.
- Matt
The Meaning
To love is to share life together
to build special plans just for two
to work side by side
and then smile with pride
as one by one, dreams all come true.
To love is to help and encourage
with smiles and sincere words of praise
to take time to share
to listen and care
in tender, affectionate ways.
To love is to have someone special
one who you can always depend
to be there through the years
sharing laughter and tears
as a partner, a lover, a friend.
To love is to make special memories
of moments you love to recall
of all the good things
that sharing life brings
love is the greatest of all.
I've learned the full meaning
of sharing and caring
and having my dreams all come true;
I've learned the full meaning
of being in love
by being and loving with you.
- Kellie Spehn -
To love is to share life together
to build special plans just for two
to work side by side
and then smile with pride
as one by one, dreams all come true.
To love is to help and encourage
with smiles and sincere words of praise
to take time to share
to listen and care
in tender, affectionate ways.
To love is to have someone special
one who you can always depend
to be there through the years
sharing laughter and tears
as a partner, a lover, a friend.
To love is to make special memories
of moments you love to recall
of all the good things
that sharing life brings
love is the greatest of all.
I've learned the full meaning
of sharing and caring
and having my dreams all come true;
I've learned the full meaning
of being in love
by being and loving with you.
- Kellie Spehn -
A gentle word like a spark of light,
Illuminates my soul
And as each sound goes deeper,
It's YOU that makes me whole
There is no corner, no dark place,
YOUR LOVE cannot fill
And if the world starts causing waves,
It's your devotion that makes them still
And yes you always speak to me,
In sweet honesty and truth
Your caring heart keeps out the rain,
YOUR LOVE, the ultimate roof
So thank you my Love for being there,
For supporting me, my life
I'll do the same for you, you know,
My Beautiful, Darling Wife.
Illuminates my soul
And as each sound goes deeper,
It's YOU that makes me whole
There is no corner, no dark place,
YOUR LOVE cannot fill
And if the world starts causing waves,
It's your devotion that makes them still
And yes you always speak to me,
In sweet honesty and truth
Your caring heart keeps out the rain,
YOUR LOVE, the ultimate roof
So thank you my Love for being there,
For supporting me, my life
I'll do the same for you, you know,
My Beautiful, Darling Wife.
A Special World
A special world for you and me
A special bond one cannot see
It wraps us up in its cocoon
And holds us fiercely in its womb.
Its fingers spread like fine spun gold
Gently nestling us to the fold
Like silken thread it holds us fast
Bonds like this are meant to last.
And though at times a thread may break
A new one forms in its wake
To bind us closer and keep us strong
In a special world, where we belong.
A special world for you and me
A special bond one cannot see
It wraps us up in its cocoon
And holds us fiercely in its womb.
Its fingers spread like fine spun gold
Gently nestling us to the fold
Like silken thread it holds us fast
Bonds like this are meant to last.
And though at times a thread may break
A new one forms in its wake
To bind us closer and keep us strong
In a special world, where we belong.
BEST LOVE QUOTES THAT CAN BLOW YOUR SPOUSE'S MIND
It's perfect, and touches me deep
First thing in the morning, when I hear you speak
And last thing at night as you bid me sweet dreams
The brush of your lips lets me know what you mean
And all of the hours that pass through the day
-
Those spent together and when you're away
I think of you always, imagine your touch
Think how to show you, I love you so much
So when we're apart, and you long for me near
Just try to remember, you're already here
For deep in my heart, where no one can see
You'll be forever, together we'll be
- Louise Scrymgeour -
First thing in the morning, when I hear you speak
And last thing at night as you bid me sweet dreams
The brush of your lips lets me know what you mean
And all of the hours that pass through the day
-
Those spent together and when you're away
I think of you always, imagine your touch
Think how to show you, I love you so much
So when we're apart, and you long for me near
Just try to remember, you're already here
For deep in my heart, where no one can see
You'll be forever, together we'll be
- Louise Scrymgeour -
7 MISTAKES WOMEN DO ABOUT THEIR MEN
The 3 Deadly Mistakes Women Make With Men Without EVER Realizing It...
Through my research and personal experience, I've found that these 3 mistakes are responsible for more failed dates and relationships with men than any other factors. Here they are:
» Mistake #1: Leading A Man To Think You Are "Needy" And "Insecure"
Did you know that there are 6 ways you can set off a man's "Insecurity Alert" and make him think twice about pursuing a relationship with you?
Sadly, even confident women often "accidentally" give off one of these signs... and just one can kill the chance of a man asking you on a second date.
As you read through these signals men pick up on as "needy" and unattractive, ask yourself if YOU have ever been guilty of committing one of these deadly mistakes:
- Talking or saying nasty things about your past boyfriends. Saying bad things about men you have been involved with actually reflects the negatively back on YOU. It makes a man worry you are carrying around "baggage" that HE will have to deal with should he become involved with you.
- Speaking negatively about other women. When women call other women names like "slut", "bitch", and "crazy", it is anything but impressive to a man you are attracted you. Women will often do this when they see a good looking, desirable woman, especially if they feel their man might be attracted to her. This just makes a man think you are trying to cover up your own insecurities, and looking for validation and attention. Not good.
- Too much physical contact, especially in public.
If you are constantly hanging on a man or touching him too much he'll start to see it as clingy behavior... but you'll never hear about this from him. It's far better to save your touches for short and infrequent moments that will surprise and enchant him.
The next 3 are far deadlier, but less obvious... and it's important that you learn what they are and how to avoid giving them off.
But before I show you how to do that, let's talk about mistake #2:
» Mistake #2: Appealing To His "Sexual" Side Instead Of His Emotional Side
Many women make the mistake of thinking that men are primarily driven by sex alone... and think if they can attract a man SEXUALLY they will be able to attract him EMOTIONALLY as well.
Women too often give up sex to a man in the hopes that it will translate into a relationship and get them what they want. In reality, a man has the capacity to view a sexual connection and an emotional connection as two entirely different things, and it requires a special set of skills to mold these two things together in a man's mind... and keep them connected.
Men are out for far more than just sex... and a woman who knows how to fulfill a man EMOTIONALLY and SEXUALLY will be the woman who captures a man's heart... and gets that same fulfillment for HERSELF. In a moment, I'll show you how you can learn to do just that...
» Mistake #3: Not Knowing How To Size Up A Man's "Relationship Potential"
A lot of women will decide whether or not they should put energy into building a relationship with a man based on ATTRACTION.
Yes, attraction is important. But it can also be DANGEROUS.
When we feel a strong sense of attraction for someone, it can cause us to override our logic and ignore our instincts... leading us to overlook potential partner's deadly faults that could spell trouble down the road.
If you've ever found yourself stuck in a relationship that is dragging you down, this is probably why.
It's important to be able to size a guy up and spot any "warning signs" of a future bad relationship FAST... so you don't waste any of your time or emotional energy on someone who isn't right for you... or who will leave you heartbroken. Fortunately this is a fairly easy thing to do, and I'd like to show you how...
Here's How To Find, Attract, And KEEP The Man You've Always Wanted...
Wouldn't it be nice to skip the dozens of dates with lame and shallow men most women have to go through... and fall right into the arms of the man you really want?
Would you like to learn how to captivate a man with your sharp wits and your kind heart... and never have to worry about just being wanted for sex again?
Would you like to have an almost "unfair" advantage over all other women when it comes to meeting and attracting the man you want... including those women who might be prettier and younger than you?
Are you tired of dealing with men who never really commit?
Do you want to break out of the destructive cycle of meeting men, dating them, getting into relationships, quitting things that you like to do... only to end up breaking up with the guy and feeling like you wasted your love and your life away on him?
Do you ever feel like you just can't find the right man for you... and if you did... that he might not be attracted to YOU? Would you like to know how to change this?
Or is there a man in your life right now with whom you would like to take things from "casual" to "committed", but you're not sure exactly how to do it in a way that you know will work... or even if he is interested in in YOU the same way?
Or are you in a relationship right now that seems to be growing "stale"... because your man doesn't do nice things for you, call you, or make plans the way he used to... and you'd like a fast and easy way to get things back to the way they used to be?
If you answered, "YES" to any of these questions, I have some exciting news for you...
I've put together what I like to think of as a "man manual" that literally ANY woman can use to help her both CATCH and KEEP that great guy when he comes along.
Your "Secret Weapon" For
Success With Men
My book is called "Catch Him & Keep Him".
I believe that if you learn how to understand "male psychology" and you learn how to handle a few key specific situations, that you can CATCH the man of your dreams, and then KEEP him for the long-term.
In my new book, I'm going to take you by the hand, and show you step-by-step how to catch that great guy, and then how to KEEP him around for the long-term...
I've decided to publish my book only online in "electronic" format, so you can download it right now , and be reading it within just a few minutes...
I'm not an accomplished author, so this book will have some flaws. If you read for literary quality, it might not be for you.
But if you're looking for the real... the genuine... no B.S. ways to make a man crazy for you, get what you want out of your relationships - and at the same time - avoid any of traps and mistakes that could cost you a lifetime of lost loves, this could be the most important book you'll ever read.
The Secrets Men WISH You Knew-
But Don't Know How To Tell You...
Have you ever read a romance novel about a strong-willed woman who met a tough, "dangerous" alpha-male man... and over the course of the story, she "tamed" him and won him over... and made him fall completely and helplessly in love with her... to the point where he wanted to be with her FOREVER?
We've all heard this one before... but does it ever happen in real life?
The answer is YES.
Great guys get snagged all the time. Secretly ALL MEN want to find a woman that gives them that "forever" feeling... and when they do, they want to keep her all for themselves.
So how does this happen? How does a woman give a man that feeling that lets him know that she's "the one"?
Well... as you can imagine... most guys don't really think about this stuff.
And even if they did... just as you don't want to have to tell a man how to turn you on, a man doesn't want to tell you how to make him fall in love with you.
Like you, he just wants it to HAPPEN.
So even though your man will never tell you or even hint at how you can completely capture his heart, you can bet he is secretly hoping you will do all the right things.
And that's where I come in.
When I set out to write this book, I made it my mission to find what REALLY works when it comes to attracting and keeping great men... and discover exactly how a woman could make love happen in a completely natural way.
I interviewed hundreds of men and women... and I discovered some VERY interesting things...
I started off by talking with women I knew who had "landed" great guys... desirable, successful men that any woman would consider a "catch".
It goes without saying that many other women had tried (unsuccessfully) to tie these guys down.
Not surprisingly, I started to notice some common things...
I noticed that there was one distinct thing these women did at the very beginning to make a man see them as his "future" rather then just a "casual partner".
Each one of them also had a unique, yet simple and accurate way of instantly "sizing a guy up"... so they NEVER wasted time on a guy who wasn't up to their standards (Several of these methods actually got the guy to spill his own "dirty secrets" without knowing it!).
They also had a way of handling conflicts, important situations, and "the talk" that was VERY DIFFERENT from what most men are used to seeing (This method instantly puts a man at ease by creating a "you and I against the world" bond that he treasures deeply).
Why Guys Fall For Some Women
And Not Others...
This book wouldn't be complete without the inside "dirt" from us MEN.
I made it my mission to track down dozens and dozens of the "cream of the crop"... and I got them to reveal "hows" and "whys" they themselves had never considered...
Not surprisingly, every guy I talked to had ways of "screening" women FAST... over the years they had learned to recognize certain signs that told them if a woman was insecure, a "drama queen", had "baggage", was needy or attention-starved, and even ways to instantly tell whether or not a woman knew what she was doing "between the sheets" before they ever got near the bedroom.
They also explained what women had done to secure spots in their hearts as the "one and only" (These were guys with plenty of options... but these women did 3 special things that made them completely forget about any and all other women).
And most importantly... I got them to reveal the things these special women had done to make those feelings last and last and last... perhaps the biggest challenge us men face in finding a woman to gave our hearts to.
I've been very fortunate in life in that I've never had a hard time meeting women or getting dates... but finding a woman who can keep my interest and attention has always been a different story...
Come to think of it, I can count the few who "tamed me" on one hand... with a finger or two to spare. (Every guy I interviewed actually said the same.)
So of course when I put this book together I looked back at the special women who made me feel those incredible feelings... and figured out exactly what they did differently then the other women whom I've met and dated.
I lay it all out for you here... and I hold nothing back.
The bottom line is this:
Some women know secrets that other women do not.
Some seem to know them "instinctively", while others figure them out over time.
I've compiled these secrets in my new eBook, and I'm really looking forward to sharing them with you.
This is the only book of it's kind... and you won't find these secrets anywhere else.
This is THE BOOK I wish a woman that I was interested in would have... and read often.
Inside are the secrets every man WISHES a woman would know... and they will bring strength, affection, attention, and love to all who learn them.
Here Are Some Of The Secrets You'll Learn Inside My Informative eBook
- The inside scoop on what's REALLY going on inside a man's mind, including the things he doesn't want you to know (He'll think you're a psychic when you do exactly the right thing in every situation)
- The big mistake women make when having "the talk" and asking a man about the relationship that is guaranteed to make things WORSE than they already are... and what to do about it.
- A simple way to get your man to understand your feelings that makes him want to do whatever it takes to take things to the next level (You'll wish you knew about this with every man you were involved with in the past and you'll want to use it with every man you meet from now on)
- A simple 3-step method to understanding how your man is feeling that makes him feel closer and closer to you with each step of the process, AND gives you the information you need to keep things moving forward
- The BIG SECRET all happy couples share that unhappy couples never realize until it's already too late (You can use this at any stage in a relationship or even when you're just dating to keep things going on the right track)
- How women who are "naturally" good with men handle important situations and conflicts (The answer may surprise you, but it's something you MUST know in order for YOUR relationship to ever have a chance of moving from casual to committed)
- How to use powerful emotional "triggers" to practically FORCE a man to fall for you (He'll know you're "the one" for him from the first day you meet) - pg. 39
- A way to let a man know that you are "selective" and make him want to do twice as much for you to get your attention (This is the REAL secret to making a man LONG to be with you... and it doesn't involve any weird "manipulation" or bitchy "tricks") - pg. 39
- How to make a man see you as his future rather than just as a "casual" partner (Use this early on and he'll want to see YOU and only you ... keep it up and he'll love you forever ) - pg. 47
- How your emotions can deceive you into thinking a man is right for you when your mind (and all of your friends) KNOW he's wrong (Use this simple test to know the TRUTH every time) - pg. 55
- A way to spot a man who is too immature to have a loving relationship, FAST... so you can be sure to NEVER give up your time or your heart to someone who isn't "available" or capable - pg. 59
- EXPOSED: How "players" use cheap and dirty tactics to get women to fall for them, only to leave them helpless and alone (Here's the secret to "turning the tables" that every guy PRAYS you'll never discover) - pgs. 59-60
- The 3 different types of "players", and how to identify each one FAST - pg. 59-60
- A simple 3-minute exercise you can use to charge yourself with HAPPINESS and EXCITEMENT any time you like! (Use this when you're feeling down or just having a rough day to quickly snap back to the "you" everyone knows and loves) - pg. 73
- The 3 things every woman MUST do before she can have a healthy, loving relationship with a man (Skip any one of these and you run the risk of ending up alone) - pg. 76
- The ways "quality" men screen potential mates (Here's how to make sure you end up on his "hot list" every time) - pg. 94
- 2 connection-killing mistakes that flip a man's negative emotional triggers and send hopes of a future spiraling down - pg. 100
- "Relationship Balance" - How to connect his emotions with yours and send chemistry levels into overdrive (You won't be able to keep your hands off of each other) - pg. 107
- A brand new 5-minute exercise you can use to clear your mind and uncap your powerful hidden communication skills (Use this to instinctively know the very best way to talk about a problem in your relationship) - pg. 109
- The REAL reason why men want sexual variety (And what you can do to make him want YOU and ONLY YOU)
- How to tell if a guy is interested in "casual" or "committed"... and the signs that say you should go for more - pg. 113
- How to break the seemingly never-ending cycle of "fast-fizzling" relationships, FAST and FOREVER - pg. 119
- When Hot Relationships Turn Cold - Here's a proven formula to put the sizzling sparks back into your relationship and keep the fire burning FOREVER (This is the secret every guy prays his woman knows, but few ever actually discover)
- The Secret Of "Intellectual Attraction" - A powerful way to keep a man interested and crazy for you for as long as you choose - pg. 120 and Chapter 7
- The Power Of "Emotional Fitness" - How to strengthen your emotions and self-confidence so you are ready (and irresistible ) when your soul mate comes around - pg. 121-123
- A simple way to make a man realize when he's being an idiot or a jerk without saying a word (He'll be quick to make it up to you when you do this) - pg. 133
- A way to handle an embarrassing situation that actually makes your date BETTER than it was before it happened! - pg. 133
- How to create an emotional connection a man can't ignore the very first time you're out together (This one simple secret will keep him coming back for more) - pg. 133
| Special Sneak Peek...
If you REALLY want to impress a man who is flirting with you... instead of basking in his flirtatious attention, ask him - in an equally flirtatious way - this simple question: "So tell me... what kind of woman do you respect?" Adding a flirtatious element to a serious question is fun and inviting way of building SEXUAL TENSION that will instantly separate you from every other woman he's ever met. It lets him know that you're sassy, smart, and selective - an IRRESISTABLE combination. |
- The key to making a man forget any bad experiences he has had with women in the past that could stop him from having a relationship with YOU - pg. 139-142
- The 11 traits that tell him you're a "catch" (Show him 5 or 6 of these and he'll start thinking about the future... show him all 11 and he'll be convinced you are "the one") - pg. 139-142
- How to act around a man you like if you want him to ask you out - pg. 139
- What to say when a man tells you he's having a "guys night" (Trust me. this is a situation you can't afford to mess up) - pg. 140
- The way a man instantly knows how a woman feels about herself (Use this to let him know you are a strong, confident woman) - pg. 141
- The 5 things women ACCIDENTALLY do to eliminate their chances of a second date with a man (Any one of these could cause him to throw away your number, even if it seemed like things went well ) - pg. 141-142
- A "danger sign" that lets a man know INSTANTLY when a woman is "needy" (If you don't know what it is, chances are you are giving off this sign now, even if you don't consider yourself a "needy" person) - pg. 142
- A way to make any time you spend with a man the best he's ever had (Do this to make him quickly forget about any other women he is dating) - pg. 163
- How to make a guy feel like YOU are the one person who understands him better than anyone else in the world. even if you've just met (A sure way to trigger his "Keeper Alert" FAST) - pg. 163
- The one thing you MUST know before you approach a man you are interested in (This piece of information will make or break it for you... so pay close attention) - pg. 176
- What to do when he doesn't call you back (This one will surprise you, but it works like magic ) - pg. 199
- A quick way to let him know he's on your mind that says all the right things and gets him thinking about YOU - pg. 187
- Activities you can do with a man that create an instant bond - pg. 186
- How to impress a guy with your talents WITHOUT coming off as conceited or a "show off" (You'd be amazed if you know how many women make this deadly mistake) - pg. 187
- A way to compliment a man that shows just the right amount of interest - and actually makes him chase you MORE! - pg. 187
- A sneaky way to make him go out of his way to impress you and try to win you over (ALL men secretly love when you do this- but they'll never admit it) - pg. 188
- How to let a guy know you are an AMAZING lover before you even set foot in the bedroom (If you're ever wanted to drive a man into an uncontrollable frenzy of passion . THIS IS IT) - pg. 188
- An almost UNFAIR way to get a guy thinking about YOU 24/7 (My guy friends are going to KILL ME for giving this secret away... Use it sparingly - because doing it too much can literally make a guy crazy and clingy with you) - pg. 188-189
- The secrets women who are "naturally" good with men use to whip "unavailable" men into shape (It always surprised me that more women don't use this, because it's surprisingly simple) - pg. 190
- The 3 subjects you should AVOID LIKE THE PLAGUE when you are talking to a man you like - pg. 192
- The 3 deadly "enemies of attraction" that scare a man off FAST and FOREVER... no matter how much he was into you to begin with - pg. 192
- Why physically attractive women have a HARDER time finding a great man... and what to do about it - pg. 194
- The big mistake women make that is the kiss of death for any long-term potential with a man (If you don't know what it is, chances are you are making it now) - pg. 169
- There's one thing that hurts most women more than any other issue - and you can avoid it - cheating! Learn and follow the seven steps to "cheat-proof" your relationship.
- The one question you must NEVER ask within the first 5 minutes of meeting an attractive man - pg. 202
- A "trick question" to ask a man that lets him know right away that he's talking to a unique and exciting woman (This is a truly awesome secret you'll use with every attractive man you meet. I can't wait to share it with you!) - pg. 205
- What you MUST do differently when dealing with REALLY ATTRACTIVE men - pg. 206
- The secret ways men TEST women. and an effortless way to pass these tests every time- even when you don't know you are being tested - pg. 210
- How to use your magical flirting skills to make a man actually ENJOY having "serious" conversations with you (Do this and you'll be able to make him feel closer to you than you will ever know) - pg. 212-213
- How to make a man more attracted to you by being SELFISH (I know this sounds crazy, but done right it works like magic and men love it. Here's how.) - pg. 221
- The right and wrong way to make physical contact with a man when you're in public (Do this wrong and you'll come off as needy... but do it right and he'll do WHATEVER IT TAKES to get you alone) - pg. 222
- What you should NEVER say about another woman, unless you want a man to think you are insecure - pg. 223
- The big mistake women make without even knowing it that tells a man you have BAGGAGE - pg. 223
- The 6 signs of NEEDINESS and INSECURITY desirable men use to disqualify potential dates (Sadly almost all women give off one or more of these signs ACCIDENTALLY, so it's important you learn what they are so you can avoid them) - pgs. 222-223
- A simple 4-step plan you can use to GUARANTEE you will meet a man who is exactly what you are looking for - pg. 225
- A surefire way to improve your dating skills FAST that is a ton of fun and requires ZERO effort (You'll be kicking yourself for not doing this sooner!) - pg. 228-229
- An 8-step way to figure out what kind of man is PERFECT for you (When you know who you are looking for you'll be TWICE as likely to FIND HIM) - pg. 229-230
- "Guy Talk" Deciphered - Here's how to know what he really means - EVERY TIME. Especially in those frustrating times when he hardly says anyting - pg. 239
- The exact amount of time you should wait to have sex with a man if you want it to turn into something more (Men will HATE ME for revealing this, but it's just too important ) - pg. 241
- The one rule you must set with a man IN THE VERY BEGINNING if you want to ever have a serious relationship with him - pg. 242
- The real truth about how men think about women and dating (some of this you won't want to believe, because it's so far from what women think is going on) and the exact things a woman needs to do if she wants it to turn her situation into something that could last
- I've read all the books, heard the speakers and seminars and listened and learned about everything out there for women. It wasn't until I started discussing with women this ONE THING that everything fell together. I'll share with you the most powerful thing a woman can do to be more successful at attracting and keeping men, and why almost no women do it
- Were you in a relationship that has ended or is in shambles and you want to repair things? Most women do the exact opposite of what works in this situation. Here's the ONLY SURE WAY to get things back on track...
- The single most important thing a single woman can learn - how to identify a good man. And avoid all the wrong ones!
- Why your man won't open up to you (Here's a magical way to communicate that makes him want to pour his heart out)
- How to pinpoint a man's reasons for not committing so you know exactly what to do about it
- The only way to truly repair a relationship that LASTS...
- And much, much, much more...
| Can You REALLY Learn When I first put "Catch Him And Keep Him" out there for women to read, I was honestly nervous. I knew the information was fantastic and I'd done my homework, but would women be able to actually use it to find and attract the man they always wanted? The responses I've gotten have been more than worth all the time and energy spent. Here's just a few of the great results women have had after reading and using this brand new information... " I never thought I'd be writing a testimonial to what I essentially thought at first was a clever marketing ploy to get people (women) to buy your book. Since all my "strategies" with men weren't working, I decided to give you a shot, and ordered "Catch Him and Keep Him". That was the best investment I've ever made. Your words ring true, not only for relationships, but for life. Ever since I've started following your advice I am experiencing a sense of liberation and confidence I had not known before. Lola" "Hello Christian, I have read the book twice now! I have a few more wrinkles from not sleeping, but I also have my peace, power and integrity back. The book is truly empowering ... I thought that at this point relationships would be easy - you just gotta love someone with the same intensity, and you'll have a beautiful relationship a nd it will be reciprocated. Well not so, since the man I am attracted to is not on the same wavelength and this is where your book is so valuable... Carolyn T., Thousand Oaks, CA" "Christian, Hey, what you said in your book sounds like you're a fly on the wall when my boyfriend and I had a discussion about our relationship the other night we don't even kiss anymore, he's distant and it's just like you talked about- I really feel like he's cheating because of the reasons you talked about but I know I love him. I'm great at communicating and he's not but I know what I've got do about my situation now after reading what you said about a man's mind and how to talk to him. KC, Broken Hearted in Ohio" "Hi Christian, So far the things that you have written in your ebook especially about resistant and unavailable men have helped me tremendously with understanding my boyfriends non-verbal messages instead of taking it so personally like I have done in the past with other relationships. It can destroy a woman's self esteem and confidence. Thank you so much for de-mystifying your gender's behavior. You're a peach! P.S. - I actually thought my relationship was over, but now I feel like there's a chance for it to work. Thank goodness because I never had more fun with anyone else! J.S. " "Christian, This was like a god send for me but I still wish I that I got this book a month. Then I could have saved myself from the stuff I just went through. I was just dealing with two of the things you talked about in your book on distant men with my boyfriend of four months. We live almost 500 miles apart. I was having the hardest time figuring out what to do and we were either fighting on the phone all the time or he wasn't calling me and didn't seem into us the way he used to be. J.R., Galveston, TX " |
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